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Barbara Karnes, RN, author of "Gone From My Sight, The Dying Process, responds to a question about a hospice nurse who grieves deeply after each of her patients die.

It is how we feel at the end of the day about ourselves and our life that comes first. Our personal well being takes priority over any amount of work...

International Woman of the Year 2015, Barbara Karnes, RN gives you the questions you need to ask when choosing a hospice for a loved one, or yourself.  MOM NEEDS HOSPICE? Here Are Your Questions To Choose the Right One...

There have been many changes in hospice care since it began. Some for the better, some not so much. What I am suggesting as representing a “good” hospice is becoming...

Hospice Pioneer, Barbara Karnes, RN weighs the pros and cons of home health and hospice care.

I know it is scary to think of using hospice. It says death will happen soon, but there is such guidance and support to help that at least ask for...

American Hospice Pioneer, Barbara Karnes, RN answers the question: Can you look back after a death and see that yes, they were dying and no one knew it?

In our personal situations we may never have an answer to the question did he know or had the process started months earlier. What I suspect is that at some...

"One Lone Tear", Dementia At End Of Life by Barbara Karnes

The guilt, frustration, uncertainty, and helplessness of family caregivers is as much a problem to our healthcare system as the patient with dementia...

National Hospice Pioneer, Barbara Karnes, RN explains why she wrote her new booklet/resource, PAIN AT END OF LIFE for families, death doulas, nurses, hospice staff.

In todays culture with the opioid crisis rampant, fear of narcotic use is everywhere. That fear hinders our ability to provide appropriate comfort management and is leading to misconceptions about...

Developing End of Life Expertise by Barbara Karnes, RN

You have to walk the walk before you can talk the talk. Learn from your patient/family interactions. At the same time read everything you can get your hands on...

Hospice Pioneer, Barbara Karnes, RN writes Our Children Aren't Supposed to Die Before Us

From the moment of a diagnosis of a life threatening illness we begin grieving. We grieve not just the eventual losses that come with serious illness but the approaching...

Alzheimer's, Cancer and Hospice by Barbara Karnes RN

Dementia isn’t a terminal illness in that it doesn’t have a limited prognosis. It is like dying from old age, it takes longer. Alzheimer’s, or any form of dementia, is...

Setting Up A Hospice Program by Barbara Karnes, RN

...You really don't need a doctor or nurse at the bedside when someone is dying. You need someone who understands the natural way people die and can educate and guide...

WORKING TOGETHER, Hospice & Nursing Facilities by Barbara Karnes, RN

Hospice has worked with nursing facilities for many years now. Our relationship  and interactions with patients and their families is now better understood and better defined. That said, some nursing facilities...

An Unpleasant Memory of Dad's Care, Article by End of Life Expert Barbara Karnes RN

I am sharing this letter and my response because this family is not the only family that has carried memories, sometimes for years, of situations that occurred as their loved...

8 Things to Consider Regarding End of Life Pain Management by Barbara Karnes, RN

Often dying looks painful to the people watching. Dying is a struggle to get out of the body. There are sounds that ordinarily would indicate discomfort but, when a person...

I Hear You, But I Don't Understand

...I remember being with my mother in my hospice Medical Director’s office. He was explaining to my mother his medical findings as they related to her illness. I, being a...

SOCIAL WORKERS: I Want To Be Like You When I Grow Up by End of Life Educator, Barbara Karnes, RN

This is the story that came to mind when I decided to write a blog for National Social Work month. Social work, to me, is about saying the right words...

My Personal Integrity Was Wounded Tonight by Barbara Karnes

When hospice began it was outside of the medical model. It provided end of life care based on quality, not quantity, of life. It recognized when physical healing couldn't be...

GRIEF- Struggling After Mom's Death by Barbara Karnes, RN

Often after a person dies we forget that there is no perfect relationship, that there are easy times and difficult times. Somehow once a person dies we elevate them to...

Refusing Treatment At Age 93, Article by Hospice Innovator Barbara Karnes, RN

Why make your mother’s remaining time be unhappy and with more discontent than is already there due to age and illness? Being old is hard work. Our thinking processes aren't...

Six Months To Live? A Doctor's Prediction by Barbara Karnes, RN

So many factors affect the length of our labor to leave this world that it is imprudent to put a specific time frame on approaching death. The closest we can...

IT HAPPENED FOR A REASON? Death Of A Child by Barbara Karnes, RN

I suggest writing a letter to the person that died and saying from your heart what you need to say that you didn't say before. I recommend that you write...

Hospice~ What Have We Accomplished?

We’ve had over 40 years of providing end of life care to the community. And yes, it is acknowledgment of our work that there is a national Hospice month but...

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