BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF ~ Grief and Guilt

BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF ~ Grief and Guilt

November 28 2017
What do I mean by being "gentle" with yourself? I mean forgive yourself for
all the things you feel guilty about. Remember we always do the best we
can with the information we have at the time...

I Don't Want Dad To Die On My Birthday

I Don't Want Dad To Die On My Birthday

November 14 2017

Dad was in his 11th hour and it happened to be my birthday. I was mixed on how I would feel if it happened on that day. In talking with the hospice nurse she matter of fact told me he won’t die on my birthday. My Dad died the very next day. Does the patient have any control...

 

Some Think Hospice Kills

Some Think Hospice Kills

October 30 2017
It is because end of life care is different than caring for someone who is going to get better that we think the care being provided is causing harm. It is because our medical profession is perceived as fixing people, no matter how sick the person is. Hospice care has then failed, has let the person die when death comes.

Deathbed Promises

Deathbed Promises

October 18 2017
Dear Barbara, Please talk about deathbed promises. Being at the bedside as a person approaches death is often scary,...

Do Not Resuscitate & Hospice

Do Not Resuscitate & Hospice

October 03 2017
I was directed to a conversation on a Facebook group that I follow.   The question that started the conversation was,...

Hospice Middle Management & Oreo Cookies

Hospice Middle Management & Oreo Cookies

September 19 2017
Many years ago I attended a workshop at The Menninger Clinic in Topeka, Kansas. The topic was about when a clinician ...

Taking Charge With An Advanced Directive

Taking Charge With An Advanced Directive

September 06 2017
Dear Barbara, when do we talk about end of life issues with others? We talk about end of life issues NOW while we ar...

Oxygen at End of Life - Who Does It Comfort?

Oxygen at End of Life - Who Does It Comfort?

August 23 2017
Dear Barbara, Could you address the use of oxygen as a comfort measure? I don’t mean as a result of measuring the SAT...

Food and the Dying Process

Food and the Dying Process

August 09 2017
Dear Barbara, I'm facing the choice of having my mother be fed or not as she is barely feeding herself. I need facts ...

How to Become a Death Doula

How to Become a Death Doula

July 25 2017
Dear Barbara, How do you start training in becoming a death midwife?1. Examine why you want to be a Death Midwife. Wh...

Whimpers and Tears in the Actively Dying

Whimpers and Tears in the Actively Dying

June 29 2017
Dear Barbara, my mom recently passed away while surrounded by her kids and husband. I cannot stop replaying her last ...

If I Can't Speak For Myself...

If I Can't Speak For Myself...

June 07 2017
Dear Barbara, What is the best way I can prepare for my death? First have an Advance Directive. It outlines in writi...

What It Takes To Be A Hospice Nurse

What It Takes To Be A Hospice Nurse

May 25 2017
Dear Barbara, As a professional caregiver I see a lot of the "hands-on" side of our industry.  I am side by side with...

Unexpected Death of a Child

Unexpected Death of a Child

May 09 2017
Dear Barbara, Please talk about unexpected youth death. In our minds we understand, that as sad as it is when an old...

VSED ~Voluntary Stopping Eating & Drinking

VSED ~Voluntary Stopping Eating & Drinking

April 24 2017
Dear Barbara, Would you talk about voluntarily stopping eating and drinking (VSED)?     Here is a definition of VSED...

Distancing From The Dying

Distancing From The Dying

April 10 2017
Dear Barbara, there's a phenomenon I see every so often when I'm doing hospice care. A close family member, a spouse,...

Faith and the Dying Process

Faith and the Dying Process

March 20 2017
Dear Barbara, How has faith entered into the dying process? What does “faith” mean? I am going to say, for the sake o...

A Chemical Straight Jacket, Dementia at End of Life

A Chemical Straight Jacket, Dementia at End of Life

March 06 2017
Dear Barbara, Will you talk about a chemical straight jacket at end of life? My mother is a dementia patient in a mem...
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