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Letting Some Light In This Holiday Season

First we have to recognize that to some degree we are all grieving this season. Then we make a conscious decision to lift the heavy veil and peek beyond it, let a...

How Are You Doing With The Collective Grief We Are All Feeling?

I’ll say again we are a planet grieving. What does grief look like? Grief is an emotional expression. It comes out in the way we have learned to express our...

By Taking Care of Ourselves We Can Be a Light

With all the loss that we are experiencing during this pandemic, it isn't just physical death that we are mourning. End of Life Expert Barbara Karnes, RN has some grief...

Using Hospice Volunteers During COVID article by Barbara Karnes, RN

I was Zooming with a hospice today for Q & A’s and the subject of not being able to use volunteers because of Covid came up. WHOA!!! What do you...

Mom's Dying Alone And It's Unbearable an article on End of Life by expert, Barbara Karnes, RN

Zooming is certainly helpful but know as she progresses toward death she will not be able to respond, even to know you.  Continue the zooming and talking to her even when...

In A Time Of Overwhelming Loss article by End of Life Expert, Barbara Karnes, RN about grief and bereavement

When someone we know or are close to dies we expect to grieve. We recognize our sadness but often we don’t recognize our impulsiveness to clean the house, or our...

NHPCO Hospice Innovator, Barbara Karnes, RN speaks to those who are unable to be with their loved one at the time of death. www.bkbooks.com

Our job as an end of life specialist is to address the elephant in the room, to be direct and honest in the gentlest way possible. We are not doing...

NHPCO Hospice Innovator, Barbara Karnes, RN speaks to those who are unable to be with their loved one at the time of death. www.bkbooks.com

People are dying and in a manner we are not used to. We, in America, have become accustomed to having our loved one either at home with family close, or...

Award winning End of Life Educator, Barbara Karnes, RN writes about how necessary grief support is right now in her article, Bereavement Support Is Important At ANy Time, Now, It is Vital

Hospice Bereavement support, as well as any bereavement support program (church, Community Support, Senior Activity Program) is important during the best of times. Now it is vital.  Here are my recommendations;...

How To Help Families Care For Their Dying Loved One During Social Distancing by Barbara Karnes, RN

Hospices seem to be struggling with how to provide services now that being in homes and facilities is not an option. When we cannot rely on routines, when there is...

American Hospice Pioneer, Barbara Karnes, RN writes about self-care for those on the front lines of the Covid19 pandemic

During this time of crisis work it is hard to remember to take care of yourself. There doesn’t seem time for that but if you don’t at least try to...

In This Time of Fear, Dying 101 by Barbara Karnes, RN

People don’t die like they do in the movies—alive one minute, saying something profound and dead the next. There is a way that the body dies. A way it is...

Taking Some of the Fear Out of Dying Alone by end of life expert, Barbara Karnes, RN

I see families devastated by not being able to be with their loved one as they are dying. I am writing this for any person who is faced with a...

During Self Isolation, I Needed A Daily Routine. Do You? by Barbara Karnes, RN

I am now writing this. Here is what I am thinking: The way I have lived my life up to now will probably be changed forever. How long physical distancing...

Did the AIDS Epidemic Set Us Up To Handle COVID-19? by Barbara Karnes, RN

There are many of the same circumstances with today’s coronavirus as we faced with  HIV/AIDS in the early years— lack of medical knowledge, lack of guidance, and fear. I think...

Be Aware of the Risk We Present to Those We Are Hired to Care For by Barbara Karnes, RN

Touch in with the families, “What’s happening? Do you need anything?” Use the same volunteer for each family to develop confidence and bonding. You are saving your staff while providing a sense...

We've Just Begun Social Distancing~ Here Are My Thoughts by Barbara Karnes, RN

Isolation from others is teaching me this about my self ——- I do a lot for others, for their thoughts of me, why else do I wear makeup? Get dressed?...