Pain, Morphine & "Dying in Peace"

Pain, Morphine & "Dying in Peace"

June 14 2018
It is certainly not within our role to act if a person, in the pain of the moment, wants help in ending their life. In the “pain of the moment” are the operative words here. I cannot tell you the number of times I have heard that plea in the throngs of pain, and the relief when that pain is relieved and life continues...

The Profound Affect of Dementia on Families

The Profound Affect of Dementia on Families

March 26 2018
I can say that dementia doesn’t play by the rules for end of life. Withdrawing and sleeping can be present for years and does not signify approaching death. Not eating and not swallowing are your key signs. If we don’t eat, we can’t continue to live. Always offer food (be careful of choking), but don’t force food.

THIS IS HOW PEOPLE DIE - my latest film

THIS IS HOW PEOPLE DIE - my latest film

March 13 2018

My message throughout all this time has been to educate, educate, educate. Educate anyone who will listen about how people die. To help people understand how death comes, what it looks like, (a part of life we will all experience one day) is my focus, to neutralize the fear we all bring to approaching death. With my desire to teach as many people as possible I have created a new end of life educational film, This Is How People Die.

Grief During the Last Stages of His Life

Grief During the Last Stages of His Life

January 30 2018
From the moment of a diagnosis of a life threatening illness we begin grieving. We grieve not just the eventual losses that come with serious illness but the approaching death itself...

How Do I Pick a Good Hospice?

How Do I Pick a Good Hospice?

January 16 2018
There have been many changes in hospice care since it began. Some for the better, some not so much. What I am suggesting as representing a “good” hospice is becoming harder to find. My hope is...

"WHY?" Questions Arising Following A Death

"WHY?"  Questions Arising Following A Death

January 02 2018
When we die we work to leave our body. That work begins months before death from disease actually occurs but we only really see the work happening when death is days to hours away. I call this time labor because we the watchers don’t understand what is happening. We think it looks painful, abnormal, that something bad is happening...

Telling A Loved One They're Dying

Telling A Loved One They're Dying

December 12 2017
...not telling a person they can’t be fixed is taking away their opportunity to do and say that which is important to them. It is taking away their ability to make decisions based on knowledge of how their life will proceed. It also confuses them in that internally they sense they are not going to get better yet everyone is acting as if they are...

BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF ~ Grief and Guilt

BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF ~ Grief and Guilt

November 28 2017
What do I mean by being "gentle" with yourself? I mean forgive yourself for
all the things you feel guilty about. Remember we always do the best we
can with the information we have at the time...

Deathbed Promises

Deathbed Promises

October 18 2017
Dear Barbara, Please talk about deathbed promises. Being at the bedside as a person approaches death is often scary,...

Taking Charge With An Advanced Directive

Taking Charge With An Advanced Directive

September 06 2017
Dear Barbara, when do we talk about end of life issues with others? We talk about end of life issues NOW while we ar...

Food and the Dying Process

Food and the Dying Process

August 09 2017
Dear Barbara, I'm facing the choice of having my mother be fed or not as she is barely feeding herself. I need facts ...

Unexpected Death of a Child

Unexpected Death of a Child

May 09 2017
Dear Barbara, Please talk about unexpected youth death. In our minds we understand, that as sad as it is when an old...

Distancing From The Dying

Distancing From The Dying

April 10 2017
Dear Barbara, there's a phenomenon I see every so often when I'm doing hospice care. A close family member, a spouse,...

Laboring To Leave ~ Difficult Breathing at End of Life

Laboring To Leave ~ Difficult Breathing at End of Life

February 06 2017
Dear Barbara, I would like to know why the breathing pattern is different at end of life. My Mother had fast and labo...

Tears on the Job

Tears on the Job

January 09 2017
Dear Barbara,  I'm an older nursing student who is starting a new position as a NA2 in alovely hospice facility. I've...

Stuck in Grief

Stuck in Grief

December 12 2016
Dear Barbara, A friend of mine lost her son back in 1987. I knew him in high school. Even now all she talks about is ...

Does "No Code" mean "No Care"?

Does "No Code" mean "No Care"?

August 29 2016
Dear Barbara, would you address the belief among so many people that a “no code” means “no care”. There is a general ...

Reaching for the Far Side of Grief

Reaching for the Far Side of Grief

July 26 2016
Dear Barbara, How does a person transition from caregiving after my loved one's death to restoring my balance, focusi...
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