Planning a Loved One's Celebration of Life
Part of the specialness of doing your own service/celebration of his life is the planning. The gathering of those who loved him gathered together deciding how to celebrate his love and life...
Something to Think About: a blog on end of life
Grief
"Grieving For Someone Who Treated Me Badly..."
Part of grieving is how you channel the feelings. Channel your anger, your disdain into how well you live your life now. Let your life experience be the learning tool...
Why Do Children Die?
Unfortunately, children die. We are born, we experience, and then we die. That's the name of this game called life...
Letting Some Light In This Holiday Season
First we have to recognize that to some degree we are all grieving this season. Then we make a conscious decision to lift the heavy veil and peek beyond it, let a...
My New Tool For Working With Grief
We tend to carry within our memory every death encounter we have ever had. Yes, even we professionals who work with end of life. BUT it is the personal deathbed memory,...
How Are You Doing With The Collective Grief We Are All Feeling?
I’ll say again we are a planet grieving. What does grief look like? Grief is an emotional expression. It comes out in the way we have learned to express our...
Why Don't I Cry?
The showing and expressing of emotions is so individual, expressing our grief is individual also. Some cry, some show anger, some depression, some “tough it up" and move forward, some...
Ritual Bathing After the Death
I don't think it is about the cleanliness of the body but of the hands-on ritual of saying goodbye. Bathing is an intimate ritual. It can be a way of...
Grief & Dating- Will Family Say It's Too Soon?
Aside from pleasing or displeasing others let's look at some issues that can occur as the result of becoming socially and or romantically involved soon after a death of a...
Where Do I Scatter Mom's Ashes?
Maybe, at some point, you can find a place even though you move frequently. A place that has meaning to them or to you. Plant a tree in a park...
Trying To Understand Grief
Grief is whole bunch of normal emotions rolled up into a package we call grieving. It isn’t new emotions. It is our emotions. It is how we have handled everything...
Cleaning Out Their Belongings After Death
First, if you don’t have to clean out belongings, don’t for awhile, wait even months if necessary. There can be great comfort found in putting on an unwashed sweater of...