November 14 2019
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Barbara Karnes
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Is Talking About Dying Insensitive?

Is Talking About Dying Insensitive?


Tonya mcready - November 22 2019

Thank you so much Barbra for all your education, and sharing your knowledge .I enjoy your articles and always learn something new.

Lizzy Miles - November 16 2019

Respect your work completely. You neef to know, however, that showing a movie is inconsistent with Death Cafe guidelines and strictly prohibited. You cannot call that event a Death Cafe

Barbara - November 15 2019

Hi Monica, I’m sadden too by the response of the nurses and the doctor. Your example of the insensitivity can be found in way too many healthcare settings. The medical model doesn’t seem to have a place for death in it, hence employees are not trained in end of life skills. Enter Hospice who has the skills ——hospitals and nursing facilities are key areas for teaching, for offering inservices to staff, including physicians, on how to be sensitive, on how to comfort, on how people die. My DVD “This Is How People Die” teaches those areas and more.
Bless you Monica for the work you are doing. Stay strong.

Joanne Ciampi - November 15 2019

I agree wholeheartedly!! While my sister was undergoing chemo, she and I talked about “what if it doesn’t work this time” and “when do we decide to call hospice”? She then brought the subject of hospice up with her oncologist, and he agreed that when she decided it was time to quit, he would order hospice care. He was very frank with her and she appreciated it.

Mona Villarrubia - November 15 2019

I am a hospital chaplain and I was called to the emergency department. A patient was suddenly going down fast. As i prayed with him and his son he took his last breath. Two nurses came in at that moment because they had seen it happening on their screen. Neither said anything to the son. A doctor came in to pronounce and the son said, “can he still hear us?” The doctor left mumbling something incoherent. I turned to the son and said, “your dad took his last breath as we prayed.” “Is that why those two nurses came in?” “Yes. And the doctor just pronounced the time of death.” “ He did?” “Yes. I’m sorry he wasn’t clear. “

I was so mad at the doctor.

Jennifer Forish - November 15 2019

I was always taught as a hospice nurse, to use the words “dead”, “dying”, “ death”. Instead of “passing away” or “ transitioning”. Because the families need to have no confusion on what is going on. I have always abided by this and found it promotes understanding and no confusion.

Sandra McCants - November 15 2019

Thank you for always reminding me how important our work is.

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