When we have experienced the loss of someone significant in our lives, normal holiday stress becomes magnified by “He’s not here. I miss her. What would he think? What would she do?”
Tension adds to grief. Stress adds to grief. Fear adds to grief. Really, most emotions affect the intensity of our grieving.
This year we have a lot of tension in the world. We have extra stress in our life and all around us. We also have a lot of fear for our well being, for our safety, for our country and for our world.
All of these emotions make coping with the holidays even more challenging than during past seasons.
What to do?
Look for the positive that is in your life today. Operative word being TODAY. Actually, "one day at a time" is a good motto for anyone to practice, whether they’re grieving or not.
Be gentle with yourself.
Pull your world in closer this holiday season.
Blessings to all, especially the grievers~
Barbara
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Grace Maria
Not Tension. Not Stress. Not Fear. Yes Missing. Just the same your What to do? is such a blessing this first Christmas and New Year without Mom. Even though she died last December 15, it was such a blur that this year feels like the 1st. So here I am…
Look for the positive that is in your life TODAY.— My health. My family. My church community. Being able to attend Midnight Mass.
Be gentle with yourself.— I take naps. I take tea and Christmas cookie breaks. I watch Christmas movies every night.
Pull your world in closer this holiday season.— focus on the feelings of Christmas not filling with things. Looked for events in our town. Pleasantly surprised! Invited 2 couples for Christmas Eve dinner that were not with their families for whatever reason. Visited a senior that for whatever reason was without her family too but wasn’t up to going out and about.
Blessings to all, especially the grievers~
Blessings to y’all for being there for us. Merry Christmas! Blessed New Year 🌟
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BK Books replied:
Holiday blessings to you Grace. Barbara
Not Tension. Not Stress. Not Fear. Yes Missing. Just the same your What to do? is such a blessing this first Christmas and New Year without Mom. Even though she died last December 15, it was such a blur that this year feels like the 1st. So here I am…
Look for the positive that is in your life TODAY.— My health. My family. My church community. Being able to attend Midnight Mass.
Be gentle with yourself.— I take naps. I take tea and Christmas cookie breaks. I watch Christmas movies every night.
Pull your world in closer this holiday season.— focus on the feelings of Christmas not filling with things. Looked for events in our town. Pleasantly surprised! Invited 2 couples for Christmas Eve dinner that were not with their families for whatever reason. Visited a senior that for whatever reason was without her family too but wasn’t up to going out and about.
Blessings to all, especially the grievers~
Blessings to y’all for being there for us. Merry Christmas! Blessed New Year 🌟
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BK Books replied:
Holiday blessings to you Grace. Barbara