There is so much confusion and fear regarding end of life pain medicines, morphine in particular, that I am addressing what I consider major issues. I have made the list simple, short, and to the point so that you can use this as a guideline when your loved one is receiving a narcotic.
* To be effective, pain medicine needs to be given on a regular, around the clock, schedule.
* Over time the original dosage may have to be increased.
* Everyone’s pain is different so everyone’s pain medicine and amount will be different.
* There is no standardized medicine dosage for pain. It takes time to find the correct pain medicine and the correct amount.
* The biggest fear about taking narcotics for pain management is fear of addiction and overdosing.
* Most medicines given by mouth can be given rectally. Some pain medicines can be made into creams and rubbed on the skin.
* Generally there isn’t a need for needles in end of life pain management.
* Pain doesn’t stop when a person is non-responsive. Continue the pain management schedule until death.
I am adding an additional caveat to the above knowledge: Dying is not painful. Disease causes pain. If pain has not been an issue during the disease process then just because a person is actively dying does not mean they are in pain. If pain has been an issue during the disease process that pain is present to the last breath.
Often dying looks painful to the people watching. Dying is a struggle to get out of the body. There are sounds that ordinarily would indicate discomfort but, when a person is actively dying, are part of the struggle. Just as the little chick works to get out of its shell, a person works to get out of their body. It takes effort to release from our body. That includes rattling and gasping sounds, twitching, random hand and leg movements, picking the air, facial grimaces, and talking that doesn’t make sense. All of this is part of the natural struggle to get out of the body. Nothing bad is happening, nothing pathological. This is how people and other animals die.
What I have described in the paragraph above is generally interpreted as an expression of pain unless someone tells the watchers differently. That is where knowledge of end of life and the dying process comes in, that is where health care professionals can give important guidance IF they, themselves, understand the normal natural way people die. Sadly to say, all too often, even health care professionals do not know.
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I have been receiving many letters from families concerned about the use of narcotics with their loved one in hospice. As a result I wrote this article as a teaching tool for hospices as well as all healthcare professionals. I encourage all of those working with end of life to view my educational film, THIS IS HOW PEOPLE DIE. I dive deep into the use of narcotics and pain relief for those in their final act of living.
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Our hospice nurse gave us your little book, Gone from my Sight when my mom was dying. It was our Bible for that time. We read it daily, and it helped and prepared us for something we knew nothing about. I have bought many of them including the others you have written so we can help others like we were helped. Thank you so much!
I am experiencing end of life signs with my
mother at this time. Not eating, sounds coming from her body trying to get out. It
makes me feel sad to deal with it 24/7.
A friend gave me Gone from my Sight when my mom was dying. Can’t tell you how it helped our family. I purchased some and am sharing with others. What a blessing you are to others.
Your knowledge is undisputely the best around. You make it explicitly clear , easy for anyone to understand. I admire your strength to continue on in this field……..I have your little book Gone from my Sight and I welled up in enormous tears when I read it the time my brother was in the stages of dying. God bless you Barbara for all you know, formall you devote your life too.
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