What Happens In A Death Rally?

Dear Barbara, Can a person have more than one death rally?

At first, I wasn’t sure what was meant by the term “death rally.” While I haven’t heard that particular expression used before, I have often witnessed what could be described as a "rally" just before death. I am going to address the question using this definition of “death rally” - a person who has been actively dying (with everyone thinking it will be in days to hours), “rallies” or appears to get better, only to quickly revert back to actively dying.

I have seen this "rally" occur many, many times. The person, over a period of several months, has gradually withdrawn. Now, they are sleeping all the time, and are not eating or drinking. All of the signs tell us that death is rapidly approaching. Then one morning they wake up and seem to have gotten better over night. They are less confused, they want to eat, they want to get up. They may even begin interacting with us. They no longer look like they are actively dying and we, the family, get excited and think our prayers have been answered. Dad is getting better. All will be well. Then 24 or 48 hours later dad dies. This is what I consider a “death rally”.

What has just happened? I really don’t know the physiological reasons, but I have seen it many times and, yes, it can happen more than once.

It is like a person gets to death’s door and says, “Wait! I’m not quite ready yet. I have something left undone. Give me just a little while longer” and the Universe does.

I see this “rally” as a gift, an opportunity to be in a person’s presence a bit longer. An opportunity to hug some more, to say what might not have already been said.

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10 comments

Tammy Graves

Hi, we often use Gone From My sight with our families at our IPU. It is an integral part of our end of life teaching and so helpful. We would love to look at “The Eleventh Hour”. Is it possible to receive a sample for us to review and decide if this is something we want to incorporate into our teaching/support of our families?

Thanks

Tammy Graves RN BSN CHPH
Director of Columbus Hospice House

Valeria Morahan

That feeling I get when another of Barbara’s blogs comes out and I scramble to read it, print and save it as though it is a precious jewel :)

Michael Duffy

We see this a lot. We call it a Rally Day. They can be rather elaborate.

Annie

My mother’s “rally” or “surge of energy” was one of the greatest gifts of my life. She was able to tell me some very precious things. I will never forget that time we had together.

Sharon

We have bought several of the booklets. They are very helpful. We have shared them with others, as well as bought extra copies to have to give people. Highly recommend.

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