Sedation At The End of Life

Sedation At The End of Life

Many families fear that dying is painful and that narcotics are always needed. In my experience, dying itself does not cause pain—disease does. When we understand the difference between pain, restlessness, and the natural changes of dying, we can respond with clarity instead of fear.

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Dear Barbara, Will you talk about sedation at the end of life?

There is a misconception that dying is painful and therefore pain medicine or narcotics should be used routinely in the last days to weeks of life. We also need to add to that discussion tranquilizers (to calm) and sedatives (to induce sleep).

Let’s begin with pain when dying. Dying does not cause pain; disease causes pain. Not all diseases create pain, so we need to look at a person’s disease history to determine if we are witnessing actual physical pain, mild flu-like discomfort, or our own fears as we watch the labor of dying.

If physical pain has been a part of the disease process, then pain medicine in quantities that create comfort needs to be administered around the clock, 24/7, until death has occurred. Pharmacologically speaking, there is no reason for anyone to die in physical pain today. People die in pain because of ignorance, fear, and lack of communication and understanding on the part of caregivers, physicians, nurses, and significant others.

If physical pain has not been an issue in the disease history, then generally the physical sensations will be similar to flu-like heaviness—that ache-all-over sensation. If you had the flu, you would not take a narcotic; you would take a couple of ibuprofen. So it is when a person is dying. If pain has not been an issue in the disease process (this is the key point I am making here), then the person does not need a narcotic. You can give an analgesic, which will provide comfort. Giving narcotics for respiratory distress is another issue entirely and can be very appropriate and comforting.

Restlessness is also a natural part of the dying process. It can be related to lack of oxygen, but more often it is the dying person’s subconscious fear of approaching death—of entering an unknown experience. If the restlessness is mild, such as picking at clothes or making random hand movements, nothing needs to be done medically. If the restlessness becomes agitation, to the point that you are concerned the person may fall out of bed or otherwise hurt themselves, then a mild medication is very appropriate. Haldol and Ativan both work very well.

Sedatives generally aren’t necessary as death approaches. There may be a semantics issue here between tranquilizer and sedative. I am using sedative to mean sleep inducement. Sleep comes naturally in the dying process and gradually increases over three to four months before death actually occurs. Most people naturally sleep (are non-responsive) in the hours to even days before death. We generally do not go from saying something very profound to those at our bedside to taking our last breath. That scenario is for the movies. When we are dying a gradual death from disease or old age, most of us are asleep—even though we may be moving and muttering—in the last moments to days of our lives.

What I really believe is that most often the issue of pain during the dying process is more of a concern for us, the watchers (that includes doctors and nurses as well as family and significant others), because we are afraid and do not understand what is happening—and less a physical reality for the dying person. We bring our fears, our role models, our stereotypes, our imagination, and our culture to the bedside, and the natural, normal labor we are witnessing is then translated into the belief that physical pain is occurring.

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If you are unsure whether what you’re seeing is pain, restlessness, or the natural process of dying, the End of Life Guideline Series Bundle can help you understand what is normal, what needs comfort, and when medication is truly necessary—so fear does not guide decisions at the bedside.

5 comments

Denise Miller

My father was agitated in his last days. I tried not to medicate him, he hated drugs, but when he started to have seizures, I felt I had to. It was hard to discern what was right and what wasn’t. He had dementia and we kept him comfortable for years with gabapentin and other management drugs. One can feel quite guilty when thinking they’re doing what’s right and yet not be sure. Hospice nurses were telling me to give him more morphine and ativan than I wanted to give him. To this day, I’m not sure I was doing the right thing for him.
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BK Books replied:
Oh Denise, trying to second guess what has already been done doesn’t help anyone. Write your dad a letter, put all your feeling, thoughts about his life ending, thoughts about your relationship, tears, whatever you need to tell him on paper. Burn the letter and scatter the ashes to the wind. Let how well you live your life now be the gift of love you give him. Blessings! Barbara

My father was agitated in his last days. I tried not to medicate him, he hated drugs, but when he started to have seizures, I felt I had to. It was hard to discern what was right and what wasn’t. He had dementia and we kept him comfortable for years with gabapentin and other management drugs. One can feel quite guilty when thinking they’re doing what’s right and yet not be sure. Hospice nurses were telling me to give him more morphine and ativan than I wanted to give him. To this day, I’m not sure I was doing the right thing for him.
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BK Books replied:
Oh Denise, trying to second guess what has already been done doesn’t help anyone. Write your dad a letter, put all your feeling, thoughts about his life ending, thoughts about your relationship, tears, whatever you need to tell him on paper. Burn the letter and scatter the ashes to the wind. Let how well you live your life now be the gift of love you give him. Blessings! Barbara

Allison knight

Hi, I would love to ask your opinion on the circumstances around my mother passing, in regards to medications, is there a place we can chat just a few mins,

Hi, I would love to ask your opinion on the circumstances around my mother passing, in regards to medications, is there a place we can chat just a few mins,

RoseAnn

Thank you Barbara for this blog. As an End of Life Doula for over 2 decades it has been difficult to make families and sometimes nurses understand this concept and push the narcotics, oxygen, anxiety medication etc on clients that don’t necessarily need it; it is more for the families watching than anything else. Respiratory and agitation issues are definitely different and if someone has been in pain because of their disease for sure. I have learned not to interfere and just hold space for the dying. Thank you for the blogs! Blessings xoxo
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BK Books replied:
Hi RoseAnn, I so agree. Thank you for sharing and thank you for the good work you are doing. Blessings! Barbara

Thank you Barbara for this blog. As an End of Life Doula for over 2 decades it has been difficult to make families and sometimes nurses understand this concept and push the narcotics, oxygen, anxiety medication etc on clients that don’t necessarily need it; it is more for the families watching than anything else. Respiratory and agitation issues are definitely different and if someone has been in pain because of their disease for sure. I have learned not to interfere and just hold space for the dying. Thank you for the blogs! Blessings xoxo
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BK Books replied:
Hi RoseAnn, I so agree. Thank you for sharing and thank you for the good work you are doing. Blessings! Barbara

Chris Shields

I think sublingual morphine and Ativan should always be part of the dying process. It helps with respiration issues , pain and anxiety. There is no need to with hold these drugs!
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BK Books replied:
hi Chris, I don’t think you can make an across the board statement of “always”. There are too many variables. Blessings! Barbara

I think sublingual morphine and Ativan should always be part of the dying process. It helps with respiration issues , pain and anxiety. There is no need to with hold these drugs!
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BK Books replied:
hi Chris, I don’t think you can make an across the board statement of “always”. There are too many variables. Blessings! Barbara

Hanne

Dear Barbara,
As always, I am impressed by your ability to show the dying process with such a practical and gentle approach. As a retired hospice nurse, I appreciate your ability to minimize the fear and drama around the dying process with your wisdom and advice. I would recommend your reading and your blog to every new nurse in the field. Thank you!
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BK Books replied:
Thank you, Hanne, for your kind words. Blessings! Barbara

Dear Barbara,
As always, I am impressed by your ability to show the dying process with such a practical and gentle approach. As a retired hospice nurse, I appreciate your ability to minimize the fear and drama around the dying process with your wisdom and advice. I would recommend your reading and your blog to every new nurse in the field. Thank you!
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BK Books replied:
Thank you, Hanne, for your kind words. Blessings! Barbara

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