BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF ~ Grief and Guilt

BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF ~ Grief and Guilt

November 28 2017
What do I mean by being "gentle" with yourself? I mean forgive yourself for
all the things you feel guilty about. Remember we always do the best we
can with the information we have at the time...

I Don't Want Dad To Die On My Birthday

I Don't Want Dad To Die On My Birthday

November 14 2017

Dad was in his 11th hour and it happened to be my birthday. I was mixed on how I would feel if it happened on that day. In talking with the hospice nurse she matter of fact told me he won’t die on my birthday. My Dad died the very next day. Does the patient have any control...

 

Some Think Hospice Kills

Some Think Hospice Kills

October 30 2017
It is because end of life care is different than caring for someone who is going to get better that we think the care being provided is causing harm. It is because our medical profession is perceived as fixing people, no matter how sick the person is. Hospice care has then failed, has let the person die when death comes.

Deathbed Promises

Deathbed Promises

October 18 2017
Dear Barbara, Please talk about deathbed promises. Being at the bedside as a person approaches death is often scary,...

Taking Charge With An Advanced Directive

Taking Charge With An Advanced Directive

September 06 2017
Dear Barbara, when do we talk about end of life issues with others? We talk about end of life issues NOW while we ar...

Tears on the Job

Tears on the Job

January 09 2017
Dear Barbara,  I'm an older nursing student who is starting a new position as a NA2 in alovely hospice facility. I've...

When a Dream is Shattered

When a Dream is Shattered

December 27 2016
I am printing this letter and my reply at this holiday season because I believe this man is not alone in his feelings...

Stuck in Grief

Stuck in Grief

December 12 2016
Dear Barbara, A friend of mine lost her son back in 1987. I knew him in high school. Even now all she talks about is ...

Does "No Code" mean "No Care"?

Does "No Code" mean "No Care"?

August 29 2016
Dear Barbara, would you address the belief among so many people that a “no code” means “no care”. There is a general ...

Have We Lost the Essence of Hospice?

Have We Lost the Essence of Hospice?

June 14 2016
Barbara, There is much in today’s media about the negative aspects of hospice care. Is not-for-profit better than for...

Caring for Mom at Home

Caring for Mom at Home

May 02 2016
Barbara, I am caring for my Mother in our home. She is in denial over her situation. She is bed bound but insists she...

It's About Humanity

It's About Humanity

March 07 2016
In the End of Life Care and Bereavement Group I have on Facebook some of us who are or have been hospice nurses were ...

The Final Hours Before Death

The Final Hours Before Death

January 19 2016
I have noticed concern by medical workers as to what to do during the hours to minutes before death. Here are some i...

Forcing Fluids At End Of Life

Forcing Fluids At End Of Life

January 06 2016
I just read an article on the Independent.com website, http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/he...

This Is The Moment

This Is The Moment

December 28 2015
Being a type A personality I am moving and doing something most of the time. Tasks are finished before they need to b...

Medicare, Hospice & Trustworthy Doctors

Medicare, Hospice & Trustworthy Doctors

December 14 2015
QUESTION: The doctor recommended hospice for my father today (89, congestive heart failure). I believe this is probab...

Shhhh…Don't tell Grandma!

Shhhh…Don't tell Grandma!

November 30 2015
Don’t tell Grandma. There has been many a time when I did a hospice assessment and a family member has said to me “D...

The Heavy Feelings of Loss

The Heavy Feelings of Loss

November 09 2015
QUESTION: After death, especially of a loved one, how do you let go and stop feeling guilty when you have no reason t...
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