During Self Isolation, I Needed a Daily Routine. Do You?

I was in the shower this morning thinking it is time to start creating a routine, a pattern for this life of physical distancing.

We are creatures of habit and after almost three weeks of being in my house with only my husband and two cats I realized it was time to get organized.

So far I have been pretty much aimless, skipping showers, wearing my slippers, catching up on my recorded TV shows, texting and phoning friends, as well as doing a bit of blog and social media work/interactions. For an A type personality that is pretty much a slug.

So, I washed my hair, got out of the shower, put on makeup, put on a sweater I have never worn (saving it for a special occasion), put on a necklace with it, and socks (so I will be ready to go outside for a walk in the yard later).

I am now writing this. Here is what I am thinking: The way I have lived my life up to now will probably be changed forever. How long physical distancing and isolation (because that is what it feels like, isolation) will last is indefinite, probably months, many months. It is time for me to develop some new habits, some new routines.

I typed out a list of “to do” and “to think” for this new life pattern I have found myself in. I am sharing my incomplete list with the idea that I am not the only one grappling with this unsettling change of events, that I am not the only one searching to find order in a world that is experiencing massive chaos.

Here is my list. Would you consider making your lists and sharing them with me? You will probably have ideas that I want to incorporate into mine. We can call it community support for each other.

PHYSICALLY:

  • Get dressed, comb my hair, brush my teeth.
  • Eat three meals a day with a small (operative word here small) treat at the end of the day. I’m calling it comfort food.
  • Clean my space - dust, vacuum, sweep, clean toilets, empty trash.
  • Be mobile, walk, move about even if it is in circles, breathe fresh air (an open window, a porch, a backyard walk).

EMOTIONALLY:

  • Connect with others by phone, text, email, Skype, FaceTime, Zoom, etc. We human beings need others.
  • Reach out to others, make the first call, keep connected.
  • Watch my squirrels and the birds at our feeder.
  • Find something to laugh about, with, or at. My cats and husband pretty much keep me entertained. Now I just have to appreciate their antics instead of get frustrated.

MENTALLY:

  • Read (I am on #14 of the Jesse Stone Series).
  • Watch some TV (I’ve underlined some. Don’t want to be a “couch potato").
  • Color in my coloring books (calming, distracting, time filling).
  • Watch the news so I am informed but remind myself not to get totally emerged in the illusion. Try to separate truth from fiction.

SPIRITUALLY:

  • Look out my window and touch into the serenity of nature.
  • Appreciate the breath of life that I have, the support, the comforts, the people.
  • Touch into the smallness of my life situation compared to the enormity of the universe.
  • Remind myself frequently that one of my core beliefs is in Divine Order, that all is as it should be, and that I only have a minuscule piece of a billion piece jigsaw puzzle called Life.

14 comments

Martha Dismukes

Dear Barbara, Your writings have been a source for me for several years. I did not have access to your materials during my years as a professional counselor for Birmingham Public Schools where I was a member of the BPS Grief Response Team nor as a minister’s wife. A wonderful hospice counselor introduced me to your work when my mother was in her last days — what a blessing! I am now retired and recommend your materials to anyone dealing with end-times or death. Thank you so much and may God bless you!

Jan North

Thank you, Barbara, I am new to this site. I have worked as an RN in Hospice and also volunteered for them. I am in the process of becoming a patient myself as I am in end-stage Emphysema myself. So thanks for all you do and I am sure your books and booklets will be good for me and my family to read as well. I ordered a book and some booklets today. I look forward to reading your blogs as well as learning from you. A few things that help me are connecting with my families like facetime and Zoom are coming in handy and help with the loneliness. God Bless, stay safe Jan

Jan North

Thank you, Barbara, I am new to this site. I have worked as an RN in Hospice and also volunteered for them. I am in the process of becoming a patient myself as I am in end-stage Emphysema myself. So thanks for all you do and I am sure your books and booklets will be good for me and my family to read as well. I ordered a book and some booklets today. I look forward to reading your blogs as well as learning from you. A few things that help me are connecting with my families like facetime and Zoom are coming in handy and help with the loneliness. God Bless, stay safe Jan

mary lou kotz

I am new with your books Barbara. I will definitely order some as a CCMin my church. Mary Lou

Kathy Behrendt

Thank you Barbara for sharing your wisdom from life experience. I have learned do much from you over 20+ years in hospice work. Your booklet “Gone From My Sight” has helped our families over the years, ThankYou!
I love your list of how your being intentional at this time and will incorporate some of yours into my days.
Two things that are helpful to me are prayer and deep breathing.
Blessing as you Journey.

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