Dynamics of Dying: The Dying Experience


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Dynamics of Dying: The Dying Experience


Dynamics of Dying is a DVDs for understanding the normal dying process.

Dynamics of Dying is an edited set of two DVDs filmed from a three hour workshop given to health care professionals and Hospice volunteers.

In Disk I, one hour and 29 minutes, Barbara addresses our lack of accurate stereotypes and role models when it comes to dying hence the fear most of us bring to the experience. She explains the types of dying and how they differ from each other. Then explains the normal process of dying with the signs of approaching death that begin months before death from disease or old age and takes those signs right up to the moment of death.  She explains in detail the stages of approaching death, the stages of dying.

Where Disk I explains the dying process and our reactions to it; Disk II, one hour and eight minutes, offers knowledge and tools for working with end-of-life issues with patients and families, the “How To’s” of end of life care. It  gives ideas for providing support and guidance during the hours to minutes before and immediately following the death.
 Intended audience: hospice and palliative care professionals (RN, LPN, SW, CNA, chaplains), hospice volunteers, nursing home personnel, parish nurses, clergy and lay ministers.
Intended use: orientation for hospice and palliative care employees; hospice volunteer training; nursing home and hospital in-service; community-education presentations.

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“This is How We Die”: A Morning with a Hospice Nurse Posted on May 15, 2013 by Molly On Tuesday morning all I knew was that I was setting up an O’Connor table at the Heartland Hospice event that we were co-hosting. I got the table cloth & brochures all set out, greeted the attendees, and sat down in the back intending to “work” on my computer when the speaker, Barbara Karnes, a hospice nurse of 32 years, began speaking. She said, “I don’t want to pretend that this is all Truth with a Capitol T. This is MY experience. Dying is the hardest thing we live through.” (and you do live through it, that is, until you die) That got my attention. I had the privilege of sitting for the next two hours hearing the stories and wisdom of this nurse. I typed out as much as I could of what she said, filling up 4 pages of notes and still not capturing all the information. – Here are some of the incredible insights she gave me about death that Tuesday morning: “We don’t die like the movies” - She mentioned scenes in movies where the dying person looks beautiful and radiant, perhaps they’re imparting some incredible words of wisdom that wrap up the whole story perfectly and then, they die . . . “This is not how people die,” she said. When people are dying of disease or cancer, the kind of people she gets to work with on hospice. “They don’t have the energy to speak, and if they are speaking, you probably can’t hear or understand what they are saying.” “If they are a controlling person, they will control how and when they die” - She said that protective spouses or parents want to spare their loved ones from being there when they die. They will wait until they are alone to let go. She also said that if they want you there when they are going to die, then that is what will happen. “No one dies alone” - Barbara said that all her years of experience have convinced her that we are ushered into the “other world” by the loved ones that have gone before them. She recounted the story of a 23 year old girl she was caring for whose brother died 3 weeks before she eventually would. The family chose not to tell her about his passing but shortly afterward all she could talk about was “Jim, Jim, Jim,” her brother. Her boyfriend thought she was confused, but then she looked at him and said, “No, I know who you are, Jim is here and says he’s going to take care of me.” Barbara recounted other stories like this, I’m pretty sure there wasn’t a dry eye in that room. “Dying is always, always sad, it will never be ok. but it doesn’t have to be BAD.” - this is how you take something scary and negative and make it into a more normal and natural process that helps neutralize the fear. Barbara inspired me and gave me truth and honesty about an element of life most of us know very little about. She changed how I see dying. She spoke about it with so much familiarity, knowledge, comfort and gentleness that it took out so much of the frightening mystery that dying is cloaked in. It will never be ok, but it doesn’t have to be bad or frightening.
Mrs. Karnes, I recently attended your conference on Tools & End of Life Care. Before the session I thought "one speaker, all day, really?" What a great surprise you were....so easy to listen to, very knowledgable, and an interesting lady and presenter. Your gestures & use of motion were even interesting. What really makes you effective is your genuine care for your subject and putting Barbara out there. You said more than once "this is purely Barbara" Anyway, just want you to know you do make a difference in our world! Thank you for that! Fondly, Linda Anderson
This is Stephen Carmody, from Companion Hospice. I met you, and was blessed to listen to your lecture at Huntington Hospital, sponsored by my friends and colleagues at Heartland Hospice. I have to share that your talk, was one of the most inspirational and validating experiences in my ten years of working in hospice. Your open, loving honesty and insights moved me so much. Your sharing of your stories and experiences touched my heart. I knew upon first reading "Gone From My Sight" 13 years ago, as a family member, when my grandmother was coming on service near Boston, that the woman who wrote this was a true mensch. I am so honored to have met you and feel even more equipped to do my job with a loving hospice heart after experiencing your lecture. Thank you for the other day, but more importantly for the entire body of your life's work. You keep on giving and sharing, and I will do the same. Peace and much love to you and yours, Stephen M Carmody; Companion Hospice