IT HAPPENED FOR A REASON? Death of a Child
I suggest writing a letter to the person that died and saying from your heart what you need to say that you didn't say before. I recommend that you write...
Something to Think About: a blog on end of life
Grief
A PLACE IN MY HEART, When a Pet Dies
We can be as much at a loss when our pet is dying as we are when a person is dying but there doesn’t seem to be the support and...
Where Is The Hospice I Know and Love?
Hospice can not take the experience and sadness of a loved one dying away. Our goal is to help the family create a sacred experience, to help their loved one...
THIS IS HOW PEOPLE DIE - my latest film
My message throughout all this time has been to educate, educate, educate. Educate anyone who will listen about how people die. To help people understand how death comes, what it...
Grief During the Last Stages of His Life
From the moment of a diagnosis of a life threatening illness we begin grieving. We grieve not just the eventual losses that come with serious illness but the approaching death...
How Do I Pick a Good Hospice?
There have been many changes in hospice care since it began. Some for the better, some not so much. What I am suggesting as representing a “good” hospice is becoming...
"WHY?" Questions Arising Following A Death
When we die we work to leave our body. That work begins months before death from disease actually occurs but we only really see the work happening when death is...
Telling A Loved One They're Dying
...not telling a person they can’t be fixed is taking away their opportunity to do and say that which is important to them. It is taking away their ability to...
BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF ~ Grief and Guilt
What do I mean by being "gentle" with yourself? I mean forgive yourself forall the things you feel guilty about. Remember we always do the best wecan with the information...
Deathbed Promises
We need to look at the promises made, evaluate them as to: can it be done, should it be done, and am I willing to do it?
Unexpected Death of a Child
Dear Barbara, Please talk about unexpected youth death. In our minds we understand, that as sad as it is when an older adult dies,they have lived their life and death...
Distancing From The Dying
...There is no perfect relationship. There are good times and difficult times. Sometimes the difficulty we have with the person that is dying keeps us from being at the bedside....