THIS IS HOW PEOPLE DIE - my latest film
My message throughout all this time has been to educate, educate, educate. Educate anyone who will listen about how people die. To help people understand how death comes, what it...
Something to Think About: a blog on end of life
Death
Nursing Home Blues, Part 2
...Fortunately, I suppose, my mother is now bed-bound and we were able toget Hospice to help out, so she now fits the bill for a 'model patient'... but itstill seems...
The Nursing Home Blues
As we get older, life presents us with different challenges. We adapt to them in the same way we have lived our life and dealt with all the challenges in...
Grief During the Last Stages of His Life
From the moment of a diagnosis of a life threatening illness we begin grieving. We grieve not just the eventual losses that come with serious illness but the approaching death...
How Do I Pick a Good Hospice?
There have been many changes in hospice care since it began. Some for the better, some not so much. What I am suggesting as representing a “good” hospice is becoming...
"WHY?" Questions Arising Following A Death
When we die we work to leave our body. That work begins months before death from disease actually occurs but we only really see the work happening when death is...
Telling A Loved One They're Dying
...not telling a person they can’t be fixed is taking away their opportunity to do and say that which is important to them. It is taking away their ability to...
BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF ~ Grief and Guilt
What do I mean by being "gentle" with yourself? I mean forgive yourself forall the things you feel guilty about. Remember we always do the best wecan with the information...
Some Think Hospice Kills
It is because end of life care is different than caring for someone who is going to get better that we think the care being provided is causing harm. It...
Deathbed Promises
We need to look at the promises made, evaluate them as to: can it be done, should it be done, and am I willing to do it?
Hospice Middle Management & Oreo Cookies
Many years ago I attended a workshop at The Menninger Clinic in Topeka, Kansas. The topic was about when a clinician enters the administration work field. I don’t remember much...
Taking Charge With An Advance Directive
We must talk about end of life issues NOW while we are healthy, and our thoughts are not clouded with fear. Right now when emotions don’t affect our thinking. When we can...